I recently met a sweet pregnant woman that was glowing with excitement about her unborn baby. Throughout her pregnancy she has been gathering items to comfort and care for her baby once he/she arrives. During our conversation, she revealed that she did not have any plans regarding her birth besides showing up at the hospital in labor. Internally I cringed. I REALLY hope she has a good birth experience! The thing is, there is more to preparing for the baby than decorating the nursery. Between 25-34% women report birth trauma (that is 1 in 3 to 1 in 4 women!)! Birth trauma can affect bonding, breastfeeding, mood, coping with future pregnancies, and so much more. Babies actually do not need many things, but they do need a healthy mama. Here are some additional ways to prepare for baby:
Education is SO IMPORTANT! I realize that I am a childbirth educator, and this advice probably seems biased. BUT, how will you know what you want if you don’t know YOUR options? I know of some women that had multiple births before they discovered that they had options. It doesn’t have to be that way. Understanding what is going on can decrease a lot of fear, and hopefully trauma as well.
SUPPORTIVE CARE PROVIDER
Find a supportive care provider that has similar birth philosophies as yourself. How do you know if your care provider is supportive? Ask around. Ask friends. Ask local birth workers or advocacy agencies. Ask your care provider questions! In my Birth Boot Camp childbirth classes we discuss possible “red flags” and the questions to ask your care provider.
SUPPORTIVE BIRTH PLACE
You can choose where to give birth! Common birth places are hospitals, birth centers, and home. Tour your birth place. Ask questions. Find out policies/rules. Doctors and hospitals may have different policies. You need to ask for the rules of BOTH! Which location do you feel the safest? The safer you feel in your birthing environment, ideally the easier you will progress through labor.
Find people that will support you, not try to scare you. People LOVE to share war stories. Pregnancy might not be the best time for that. When I was pregnant, I found my support through my childbirth classes and the local birth community. Many communities have free or inexpensive groups that you can join. If you are in the Lafayette, LA area, check out Louisiana Constituents for Safe Childbirth (LCSC), Louisiana Natural Birth, La Leche League, and Postpartum groups. These groups have online and person-to-person support. They also often have birth workers that can provide resources, as well as other mothers that can love and support you!
HIRE A DOULA
A doula can also help you prepare for your birth. Doulas provide informational, emotional, and physical support for you and your partner. A doula does not replace a childbirth class, but can help remind you of what you learned. She can also help you navigate through the birth world and recommend other local professionals as needed.
There you have it – 5 ways to prepare for an AMAZING birth!
I am a childbirth and parenting educator, as well as a doula. I am also a registered nurse, breastfeeding mother, and active in my birth community. For more information on me or my classes please visit MY – Birth & Baby.