Looking for that PERFECT gift for your soon-to-be mom friend or family member?
Often we think about getting something cute for the baby, while that is nice and appreciated, moms actually have many more pressing needs during this time; and they are often quite pricey!
So, what do pregnant women want for Christmas? I asked some veteran (been there done that) moms, and here is what they said:
Maternity clothing was one reason I loved being pregnant. The clothing is so soft and stretchy to accommodate your frequently changing body.
“I was happy to receive gift cards for maternity clothes! They are expensive. And let’s be honest, by the end of the holiday season my clothes start to feel especially snug. New ones are a blessing!” – Hailie Sue Wolfe, Abilene, TX
I also loved belly bands. They can help women transition from pre-pregnancy clothes to maternity clothes. I loved them because they kept my pants up; and I didn’t get that annoying chaffing on my legs from pulling up my pants all day!
“How about accessories- because you can still wear them when you gained 40 pounds. Scarfs are your friend.” – Sarah Naomi Clark, Ukiah, CA
Sometimes putting together an outfit can be frustrating when you are pregnant. Accessories are great because you can still fit in them regardless of your size. Some other possibilities are purses, jewelry, and belts.
I had a relatively comfortable pregnancy, and I contribute much of that to regular massages and chiropractic care throughout my pregnancy.
“Pregnant women spend so much time thinking and caring for their growing little one. Christmas can be a time to help mom pamper herself with a much-needed massage. Her loved ones can either plan a get-away or give her a spa gift card. Either way, she’s going to love it!” – Cameo Sherman, Bowie and Annapolis, MD
For partners, you can also offer to give a massage yourself.
“I’m pretty sure one of my clients would tell you that me teaching her husband a few ways to relieve pregnancy pain on her back was the best Christmas gift she got.” – Brooke Harralson, Fort Worth, TX
Along with a massage, women enjoy other types of pampering, such as manicures, pedicures (it’s hard to reach your feet late in pregnancy), and relaxing baths.
They may also need tools that help them care for themselves better, such as special pillows for sleeping or birth balls.
“Pregnant women might like a nice yoga ball for Christmas since it makes sitting so much more comfortable. Some Epsom salts for the bath would help ease the aches and pains of pregnancy too!” – Brooke Harralson, Fort Worth, TX
Even as a nurse, I had much to learn in my short 9 months of pregnancy. Comprehensive childbirth education classes were a game changer for me and my husband. He was so supportive during my labor and birth! It is also a great opportunity for the couple to bond every week. These classes can be a little bit pricey, so this is a great gift to split with a few friends!
Books are also a great gift. My mother gave me the The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding while I was pregnant; I still use it as a reference. Many books from the Dr. Sears Library are also good, such as The Birth Book: Everything You Need to Know to Have a Safe and Satisfying Birth.
BIRTH PROFESSIONAL FUND
There are many professionals that can make a huge impact on a woman’s pregnancy and birth experience, but the cost can really add up.
“I always wished people would donate to my home birth fund. I.e. Pay my midwife fund. Also doula, prenatal massage, chiropractor, postpartum massage and chiropractic adjustment.” – Kristi Keen, Sugar Land, TX
A doula is a birth professional, not a medical professional, that helps couples navigate pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. A doula works with the partner in supporting the mother continuously during labor.
The postpartum period can be an intense time for new parents. The good news is there are many ways to help.
“I wish I could have gotten a gift card for a maid service. I also wished for an ergobaby carrier and one of those woven wraps with the music notes.” – Kristi Keen, Sugar Land, TX
Babywearing is a great way to recreate the womb, comfort baby, promote bonding, and give back mom the use of her hands. Other gifts that can help postpartum are gift certificates for massage, chiropractors, and restaurants.
So, put down that cute onesie, and consider one of these gifts instead. Her, her family, and their budget will thank you! Merry Christmas!
Have other gift suggestions? Comment below!
I teach childbirth and parenting classes, and provide doula services, in Lafayette and Eunice, Louisiana and the surrounding areas. For more information about me and my services, visit M.Y. Birth & Baby.